Contingency Planning

Most of you know that DH and I are strong believers in couples counseling. Or at least I am and he willing went along and now he loves it! At any rate, one of tools we have learned in counseling that is central to our marriage is the art of contigency planning. I don't know if everyone needs to do - but I am a freak about it. Despite my attemps to let go - I have found that if I have a plan - I am better able to face potentially negative situations - because I have a back up plan. I am sure this has lots to do with my control issues - but be that as it may - it is what I do.

So with that introduction - allow me to lay out the contingency plan that I have drafted and DH agrees to in principle.

BACKGROUND

Next week is the pregnancy test - also known in infertility speak as 'the beta'. It is a simple blood test and when the results come back - you will know whether or not you are pregnant. If you are - then you have a series of tests over the next week to make sure that your beta continues to rise. If is doesn't - then it is likely you have what is known as a chemical pregnancy. For "normal" women - you would probably never even know that you are pregnant - for those of us who are "fertility challenged" - we will know every minute detail.

CONTINGENCY PLAN

Negative Beta:

1. Call Moonlight Kennels order Yorkie Puppy - who will be named Henry.

2. Go to 7-11 and get a Super Double Big Gulp Of Diet Pepsi for immediate consumption.

3. Get 3 bottles of Veuve Cliquot to drown my sorrows over the 3 days that I am in mourning.

4. Contact Gladney Center for Adoption to begin process for International Adoptions.

5. Continue to fantasize about life next Spring when we have our baby/babies at home.

6. Lose the post-wedding/infertility fat - so that when I am pushing my gorgeous baby down the block and people tell me I look like a Supermodel - I will smile.



Positive Beta:

1. Call Moonlight Kennels order Yorkie Puppy - who will be named Henry.

2. Drink 96 ounces of water and pat self on back for having done that for two weeks.

3. Continue nightly intramuscular shots with 2 inch needle in the a** for another 6-8 weeks.

4. Continue not to lift anything over 10 pounds until further notice.

5. Continue to fantasize about life next Spring when we have our baby/babies at home.


So there you have it - contigency planning in a nutshell!